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Tips for getting through your divorce after he cheated

Getting through a divorce will not be easy for you, especially if your marriage ended because of infidelity. You're going to end up feeling betrayed by the person you cared about the most and lost for awhile while you try reprocess your life, your destination, and your future. Your sense of self may be eroded over this time as well as so many changes take place and so much uncertainty looms. But the good news is that there are many things that you can do throughout this period that will help you move forward with your life and begin a new chapter. Here's a few of them.

Keep a journal or a blog

Sometimes it helps to get your thoughts down on paper and blogs and journals are a great way of sharing your struggles with others. A lot of women read blogs and look for inspiration in each other's words and if you are a woman going through a divorce a blog is the perfect way to articulate your thoughts, find other like minded women, and get feedback and support from people. It's also good if you're still working and don't have a ton of time to devote to going out with people or meeting up with friends. You can check out your blog for new comments and interactions from your phone no matter where you are, and it will help you to know that there are others out there who have gone through the same things as you have. You can also make money from advertising using your blog so it's a worthwhile thing to look into if you want to earn a little extra cash on the side. If you're not interested in broadcasting your thoughts over the internet, even though this can be done anonymously, then even keeping a journal helps as you work through your emotional issues and set goals for yourself.

Get yourself involved in something

Marriages that end after cheating are really tough on the person who was cheated on. It usually happens after several years of lying and clandestine meetings that the party who was cheated on finds out that their entire life was essentially a lie. The life they thought they had was a comfortable tale about a husband who was working a lot of late nights because work was coming in and he wanted to earn the extra money. When you find out none of it was true you feel like an idiot and that's the worst part. Getting yourself involved in activities with other people is precisely the sort of thing you need to be doing to regain your confidence. Not all of the work you do can be internal, and rebuilding your life cannot be done by thinking alone. While changing your perspective on your life and marriage will be necessary, dwelling on the past will not be helpful. No matter how much the divorce hurts, you must begin that new chapter of your life with a positive outlook and see it for the opportunity that it is. In time you will learn to let go of the hurt and pain you feel and maybe even start fresh in a new, more positive relationship. While not everyone who divorces wants to engage in romantic relationships anymore, the work you do in draining the feelings of resentment you have will leave that opportunity open for you if you change your mind.